Thursday, August 30, 2012
Nobody ever said it was easy to raisechildren. They don’t come with guidelines or instructions,
and they certainly don’t come with a pause button. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional
needs that must be met. If parents fail to meet these specific needs, there can be wide-ranging and long-lasting negative
effects. The following outline provides eight essential responsibilities parents must adhere to in order to foster their children’s
physical and/or emotional well-being:
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1. Provide a safe environment:
· Keep your children
free from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse.
· Keep unsafe objects away or out of reach of your children.
· Get to know your children’s
· (get references or background checks).
· Correct any potential dangers around
· the house.
• Take safety precautions. Use smoke and carbon monoxide detectors, lock doors at night, always wear seatbelts,
etc. 2. Provide their basic needs:
· Nutritious foods
· A bed with sheets,
blankets, and a pillow
· Medical care as needed and medicine when ill
· Clothing that is appropriate for the weather conditions
· Space (a place where
he or she can go to be alone)
3. Provide self-esteem needs:
· Accept your children’s
uniqueness and respect their individuality.
· Encourage (don’t push) your children to participate in clubs, activities,
· Notice and acknowledge your children’s achievements and pro-social behavior.
· Encourage proper hygiene.
· Set realistic and
age-appropriate expectations for your children.
· Use any misbehavior as a time to teach, not to criticize or ridicule.
4. Teach and display morals and values:
5. Develop mutual respect:
· Use respectful language.
· Respect their feelings.
· Respect their opinions.
· Respect their privacy.
· Respect their individuality.
6. Provide effective and appropriate discipline:
7. Be involved in their education:
· Communicate regularly with your children’s teachers.
· Make sure your children
are completing their homework each night.
· Assist your children with their homework, but don’t do it for them.
· Talk to your children
each day about school.
· Ask open-ended questions about their day.
· Recognize and acknowledge your children’s
8. Get to know your children.· Spend quality time
· Be approachable.
· Ask questions.
· Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Now
that you’ve seen the list of parental responsibilities, look at what are not parents’ responsibilities:
· Supplying your children with the most expensive designer clothes
· Picking up after your children and cleaning their rooms.
· Dropping everything you’re doing to give a child a ride
· Providing your children with a telephone, television, computer, or game system.
· Bailing your child out of trouble
every time he or she does something wrong.
· Maintaining an unlimited supply of treats, chips, sodas, or junk foods.
· Replacing toys or
other items that your children have lost or misplaced.
Reprinted from www.ParentCoachPlan.com by Chris Theisen 2001.